Transformative resume building and interview coaching for college seniors

RAPPORT = CHEMISTRY
PART ONE: HOW DO YOU USE BODY LANGUAGE TO CREATE CHEMISTRY?

Helen Koster

Genuine rapport cannot occur unless you value others and believe what they have to say is important. This doesn’t mean you have to agree with them. It does mean that you have to honestly respect what they are saying.

Right now think about and visualize the people with whom you have chemistry. Do you respect their opinions? Now, think about others whom you interact with but there is no real chemistry. Do you respect their opinions? Is there something important to them that is not important to you?

I’d like you to enter into a conversation with someone where you have nothing at stake and feel comfortable experimenting by matching their body language.

General body posture, head tilt, and eye contact are three aspects of body language that are good to match as you begin your practice.

During your interaction, slowly move your posture and your head tilt and create the same frequency of eye contact to match the other person. Keep at it until you feel there’s chemistry between you. If chemistry developed quickly and easily it is likely your general body language was pretty well matched already.

body language

General body posture, head tilt, and eye contact are three aspects of body language that are good to match as you begin your practice.

Once you have the feeling of chemistry begin to mismatch your posture, your head tilt and the frequency of eye contact. Move your posture, head tilt and frequency of eye contact in the opposite direction and notice what happens. Where’s the chemistry now?

When you and your interviewer have natural chemistry that means you are both in the same voice and in the same body language.

When you sense there is no chemistry it means you are not matching these critical unconscious elements of who they are!

Next month, last but certainly not least, I will be talking about a component of rapport that without it, no matter how great you have become at matching voice and body language, you will not have complete chemistry.

In the meantime, as you prepare for your interviews commit to these simple practices of matching and mismatching body language and discover how easy it is to create chemistry.